How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage
By Joshua Pease
July 3, 2017
In 25% of current marriages one or both spouses are cheating.
It’s a staggering, heartbreaking statistic, and highlights an important truth: every marriage is vulnerable.
I know, you’ve heard that before. I had too. I grew up being told “anyone can have an affair” and I’d nod my head solemnly because I knew that’s what I was supposed to do. But I never really believed it would happen to me.
Then, it almost did.
A couple years ago I nearly cheated on my wife, and I never saw it coming. After a year of building an unwise and seemingly innocent friendship with a coworker I suddenly found that friendship had changed to an intense attraction. I couldn’t figure out how to shut that attraction down and it came precipitously close to becoming an affair. Thank God it didn’t. Thank God I told someone. Thank God He saved me from detonating my relationship with the person I care about most in this world.
But my “near-marital-death” experience sent me on a long, painful road of self-discovery, healing and restoration. Today my marriage sits on a foundation stronger than before. The love and intimacy my wife and I share – even in our worst moments – is deep, strong and proven. In trying to process what I’d nearly done I learned a lot about affairs, how and why they happen, and what I can do to keep my marriage safe in the future. I’m at a point now where I’d like to share this hard-won knowledge with others, CLICK THE LINK BELOW I’ll be sharing what I’ve learned on how to “affair-proof” your marriage.
Consider that “1-in-4” statistic from before, many are struggling. Some are flirting with a dangerous connection outside of marriage. Some have surrendered to that and are currently cheating on your spouse.
And yet you’re still reading which means there’s a part of you that wants to keep fighting for your marriage, and for that we’re pleased and hopeful.
We want every reader to know that, with the power of God in your life, there’s hope. No person is too broken. No marriage is too far gone. The pieces can be put back together. We serve a Savior who stands over His creation and boldly proclaims “I am making all things new.”
And so today, in this first installment of how to affair-proof your marriage, I want to give you the first and most important tip. This is the one piece of advice that will hold all the others together. It’s the most important piece of marriage advice you’ll ever receive.
Pray for God’s blessing over your marriage every — single — day. The couple that prays together, stays together.
(SN) Yes, that’s right, and give thanks to God for your partner. I even go to the further extent to pray in a whisper close to her ear, with thanksgiving as I hold her in my arms, and especially if I am massaging her on our bed before we “get connected.”
After all, isn’t making love, all about connecting to the creator of love? I do this calling upon the name of Jesus Christ.
More revolutionary: I Invite God INTO the marriage, even into the heart-to-heart connection and the loving embrace we have. I know that first sounds outrageous but after a while it feels very right, and it has bulletproofed our relationship.
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